11 Things Women Do That Men Hate, Why They Hate It, How to fix it!
Ladies, let’s just put it all on the table —sometimes we do things that drive men crazy.
Not the good kind of crazy, either. I’m talking about the behaviors that leave them feeling frustrated, shut down, disconnected and wanting to run
This isn’t about playing the blame game, though. It’s about awareness.
Because when we step back and recognize the habits that hurt our relationships, we can choose to show up differently for ourselves.
So, let’s dive into the raw truth—here are 11 things men secretly (or not-so-secretly) hate, why they hate them, and how to refocus the energy while staying rooted in your power
1. Constant Complaining and Nagging
Nothing drains a man faster than non stop negativity. To him, it feels like he can’t do anything right, so why bother trying?
How to Shift It: Instead of piling on complaints, try this: “I feel overwhelmed and could really use your help with [specific thing].” Express what you need clearly, and when he shows up, acknowledge and appreciate him
2. Criticizing Him (Especially in Public)
Calling him out in front of others feels like a slap in the face, and delivers a blow to his dignity. It’s not just embarrassing—it chips away at his trust in you.
How to Shift It: Handle issues privately, with respect. Instead of “You never do X,” try “I felt hurt when X happened.” Speak from a place of vulnerability (your feminine energy), not blame.
3. Not Respecting Him
Respect is a key element in how men feel valued. If he feels disrespected—whether through dismissive comments, eye rolls, or cutting him off—it’s game over.
How to Shift It: Even if you don’t agree with him, honor his perspective. Saying, “I see where you’re coming from, even though I feel differently,” shows you value him, even in disagreement.
Feminine essence is confidence, emotionally intelligence, and respectful—balancing external softness with inner strength to honor both your opinion and the relationship.
4. Testing Him Constantly
“If he really loved me, he’d [fill in the blank].” This mindset is a trap. Men hate feeling like they’re jumping through hoops to prove their worth—it makes them feel like they can never win.
How to Shift It: Skip the tests. Be direct about what you need, and trust him to step up. If he doesn’t, that tells you what you need to know.
5. Always in a Bad Mood
We all have rough days, but if you’re constantly bringing negative energy into the relationship, it drains him—and the spark between you.
How to Shift It: When you’re feeling “mehh’’ let him know: “I’m feeling off right now, but it’s not about you.”
Then, focus on shifting your mood—whether it’s hitting the gym , journaling, or blasting your favorite music.
6. Treating Him Like a Child
Hovering. Micromanaging. Correcting. These are surefire ways to kill the vibe. Men want love and respect not someone who treats them like a D.I.Y project
How to Shift It: Let go of control. Trust him to handle his business—even if he does it differently than you would. Do you, and let him do him.
7. Trying to Control Him
Whether it’s dictating his friendships, hobbies, or how he spends his time, trying to control him screams insecurity and clinginess. Men need freedom to feel respected and valued.
How to Shift It: Lean back. (feminine energy) Take care of your own vibe and let him show you what he’s got. When you stop trying to control him, he’ll often step up in ways you didn’t expect.
8. Saying “I’m Fine” When You’re Not
This one’s a classic. You’re upset, he asks what’s wrong, and you say “I’m fine” (but you’re clearly not). Men hate this because it’s like being trapped in a no-win situation.
How to Shift It: Be honest. “I’m feeling upset, but I need a little time to figure out how to say it.”
This demonstrates introspection and provides him with insight.
9. Neglect—Being Cold
When you shut down emotionally—whether from hurt or frustration—he feels the distance, and it makes him question the relationship.
How to Shift It: If the vibe’s off, be real about it: “I’ve been feeling some distance, and I’d like to feel closer.
Can we figure it out together?” It’s an invitation, not a wall.
10. Over-Explaining Your Feelings
Men don’t process emotions the same way women do. When you over-explain, it overwhelms them, and they tune out.
How to Shift It: Keep it simple. “I feel [emotion] because of [situation].”
Then pause. Give him space to process before jumping into more details. Keep it short and real.
11. Entitlement
If you’re acting like he “owes” you something—his time, money, attention—it creates resentment. Relationships are partnerships, not scoreboards.
How to Shift It: Flip the script. Show appreciation and gratitude. When he steps up for you—even in small ways—let him know you see it and appreciate it.
A simple “thank you” can go a long way. Gratitude makes him want to show up more, not less. It’s about creating connection not about what he “owes” you
Final Thoughts
Ladies, this isn’t about shrinking yourself to make him happy or saying that he’s right.
It’s about showing up in a way that feels good to you while keeping the connection strong and honoring both of you.
When you own your energy, speak your truth, and stay rooted in your feminine power, you naturally inspire him to rise to the occasion—and the relationship thrives.
So, drop the habits that create walls and nurture the ones that build bridges.
You deserve a relationship that’s raw, real, and full of fire—the kind that makes you both feel seen, wanted, and alive.
Love-
xo Victoria Rose
